Why doesn’t this __(self-growth technique/program)__ work for me?

by Aimee Serafini on January 18, 2015

flickr gps 5313948558_f53f318d0a_mI know all of you are part of this community because you know your life can be even better, that there is more out there for you, and it’s a matter of finding or discovering what that is for you and releasing any blocks holding you back.

And so many of you try different techniques and programs from various self-growth experts, and then some of them don’t seem to work.

I’ve been there too, I am as much a self-growth junkie as you are!

Sometimes you are philosophical about it (it wasn’t for me), sometimes blaming (I must have done it wrong), sometimes suspicious (I was duped!), sometimes fatalistic (nothing works for me).

I read something recently that helped me put it into perspective.

It’s from a new favorite book recently released by Mike Dooley, The Top Ten Things Dead People Want to Tell You, and I thought I’d share it with you.

In it he likens our self-growth journey to setting out on a trip to a new destination using GPS. We drive and make the recommended turns, moving forward. And 5 minutes before we get there, because we aren’t there yet, we tell ourselves “This didn’t work for me” “It works for everyone but me” “I did the wrong thing”

When, if we just keep going on this same road for a short while, we get where we want to be! But we give up and start driving another 3 hours on a different road, hoping this one will work, and then give up 5 minutes before we get there too. Over and over again.

Your external reality would indicate that you were right, it didn’t work for you, because you never ended up at your destination. You have no way of knowing how close you were, every single time.

My take away from this was, that everything I do in the direction of where I want to go is helpful, useful, and prepares me for the next step I’m about to take. It might not be the last turn where I finally see the flashing lights saying YOU MADE IT!, but this latest program or technique or book might be the turn just before that. Or maybe I’m still even in the middle of the drive, who knows!

In the meantime, as I just keep driving and acting toward what I want, I just need to trust I’m making the right decisions and when I arrive, it will all make perfect sense.

Most importantly, I’m going to enjoy the drive along the way, the scenery, the people I meet, the interesting things I learn.

And probably after I get “there”, after enjoying it for a week or two, I’ll want to go somewhere else!

So even if the latest program doesn’t get you “there”, have faith you ARE making the right decisions and it is helping you exactly how it needs to to keep you on your path.


Let us know in the comments section below what this brings up for you.

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